Dating can be stressful but first dates can be particularly painful and nerve wrecking. Follow my simple tips to getting ready for a date and before you know it youll be breezing through first dates with youre only concern being what to wear on your second date.
1. Dont stress! First of all, try not to stress yourself out. Tell yourself, its only a date and if it doesnt work out, so what?
2. Easy on the wedding plans You may laugh but dont start planning your wedding! Weve all been there; dreaming that this could be the one, that youll fall in love after a whirlwind romance and get married and all before youve ordered your starter! Obviously, its good to be positive but just take each day as it comes in the early stages otherwise you could be heading for disappointment.
3. Listen to music Listen to some music whilst youre getting ready; whatever gets you in the mood for a night out and relaxes you.
4. Soak in a bath If you have time, take a long soak in the bath with a small glass of wine to relax you. I emphasise the word small; you dont want to turn up drunk or smelling of alcohol.
5. Subtle make-up Girls, try to keep your make-up subtle. The majority of men dont like to see make-up caked on and if you do happen to snuggle up to your date, he wont be too impressed if you leave make-up on his collar. As a basic rule, if youre going for smoky eyes, keep your lips natural with a lick of gloss and if youre opting for the red Monroe pout then keep your eyes natural.
6. Hair to go You dont want a high maintenance hair style that has you running to the toilet every two minutes to check its in place so stick to what you know suits you and what you feel comfortable with. Also, easy on the hair products in case your date decides to run his fingers through your hair and gets them stuck!
7. What to wear? Dont wear anything too revealing on a first date as it could give out the wrong impression. Remember you can still look sexy without revealing all your goods; less is more!
Decide what youre going to wear in advance so youre not in a last minute panic with a bedroom floor covered in reject outfits. The main thing is to feel comfortable in what youre wearing so you look relaxed; fidgeting with straps and pulling down your hemline every few minutes doesnt look good.
Your choice of outfit will obviously depend on where you are going; if its fancy restaurant then you can glam it up but if its a lunchtime date or the cinema then dress it down accordingly.
8. Killer heels or comfy flats? As for shoes, heels look great but only if you can walk in them so only wear shoes that you are comfortable in. Also, dont wear new shoes in case you get blisters on the night. Again, your choice of shoes will depend on where you are going so dress for the venue.
9. Fresh breath Dont forget to clean your teeth and rinse with a mouthwash. It may sound obvious but so many people forget. Also, keep a packet of mints or chewing gum in your bag in case you need to freshen up later.
10. Aroma, aroma! Once youre ready, dont forget to squirt a bit of your favourite perfume behind the ears and on your wrist (these are the strongest pulse points). Dont go overboard, the key is to have an aroma about you, not to overpower him with your scent.
11. Arrange transport Book a taxi or arrange for someone to give you a lift so you get to your meeting place in plenty of time. I wouldnt advise accepting any offer to pick you up or take you home until youve got to know him.
12. Keep the conversation flowing Give some thought to what youre going to talk about. Obviously, you cant plan it word for word but think about things you want to find out about him and questions you could ask to keep the conversation flowing. If you know a good joke, its always good to throw that in at some point in the evening to lighten the mood.
13. A kiss goodnight no more! Dont feel pressured into going back to his place or inviting him into yours and certainly dont feel pressured into having sex! I think its best to end the evening with a goodnight kiss so you both leave each other wanting more and more importantly eager to arrange that second date. If you cant trust yourself to resist his charm go unshaven in the nether regions so that way you wont be tempted to go any further than a kiss!
14. Watch your drink Dont drink excessively! Its easy to drink faster and more than you would normally because of your nerves but try and pace yourself and if you do feel yourself getting more than tipsy, drink some water.
Also, if you dont know your date well take your drink with you when you go to the toilets; with so many drinks being spiked in bars these days its better to be safe than sorry.
15. Tell a friend Tell a friend or family member where youre going and who with and let them know when youve arrived home safe.
16. Have fun Finally, dont forget to enjoy yourself and have fun!
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